Quick Intro to Fetish Events Etiquette

1. Consent is Non-Negotiable

At fetish events, consent is the foundation of everything. No touching without explicit permission, no assuming someone’s role, and no pressuring. Asking is sexy. Respecting a “no” is even sexier.

2. Dress with Intention

These events are as much about self-expression as they are about play. Dress codes vary—from leather to latex, from high glam to casual black—but always check the event’s rules in advance. 

Remember that your outfit is also a way to make a first impression as well as to communicate preferred role and kinks.

3. Respect Boundaries

Not everyone wants to talk, play, or be watched closely. Pay attention to body language and cues. If someone is in the middle of a scene, give them space. If you’re unsure, ask or step back.

4. No Photos Without Permission

Privacy is crucial. Many attendees prefer to keep their kinky lives separate from their public identities. Unless an event specifically allows photography, leave the phone in your bag.

5. Be a Good Guest

Follow house rules, listen to organizers, and treat the venue and equipment with care. These events often exist thanks to dedicated communities—showing respect ensures they keep thriving.

6. Curiosity is Welcome, Judgment is Not

You’ll see a wide range of kinks and dynamics. Some might surprise you, others may not be your taste. That’s okay. The golden rule: if it’s not for you, move on politely.

7. Aftercare Matters

If you’re playing, remember aftercare—it’s not just for the dungeon floor. Checking in with partners after a scene, offering water, cuddles, or space, shows maturity and care.