Teach Them to Touch You Better (Without Hurting Their Ego)

Use Your Body

Sometimes the best way to teach is to show.

Gently place your hand over theirs and guide the pressure, rhythm, or area. Moan, breathe, or whisper when something feels good. Let your body be the roadmap.

Or simply ask them to watch while touching yourself the way you like it. You can follow your actions with insightful explanations.

Let Curiosity Be Mutual

Invite them to tell you what they love, too. Mutual feedback = mutual trust. Ask:

• “What’s something you wish I did more of?”
• “Wanna try a little experiment where we both take turns showing each other exactly what we like?”

Now it’s a game, not a lesson. You’re co-creating something exciting, not putting them under a microscope.

“More”. Not “Wrong”

Avoid saying what they’re doing badly and focus on what you want more of. You’re not shutting them down, you’re guiding them closer to your pleasure.

Instead of “Don’t touch me like that” try “Mmm, I love it slower like this. Can you stay right here for a moment?”.

The second version keeps the energy sexy and affirming. You’re not shutting them down, you’re guiding them closer to your pleasure.

Use References

Sometimes the easiest way to open up the conversation is by sharing something that sparks your interest.

Send your partner a video, article, or post that shows a touch or technique you like and make a plan to try it soon.

Talk Outside the Heat of the Moment

If something’s really not working and you need to reset the dynamic, don’t do it mid-sex. Pick a relaxed time when neither of you is naked or vulnerable.

You might say: “I’ve been thinking about how amazing our chemistry is, and I realized I’d love to explore some new ways of being touched. Can I share a few fantasies or things I’ve discovered that turn me on?”

Make it a mutual curiosity project, not a performance review.