Tie me up and make me go down on you. Does it sound like something you want to try? Then you are into bondage fetish. And we are here to help you to make the first steps to the world of sensory delight. Ropes and handcuffs are required.
1. Baby, talk isn't cheap
Firstly, you should know that BDSM is an umbrella term and includes bondage as well. But if you are a beginner, please, don't think that you need a dungeon.
Secondly, bondage requires consent. And, sometimes the negotiation process is more challenging than the actual play. Make sure you and your partner are on the same page. We suggest you take the road of affirmative consent. Basically, it's when only yes means yes. So you ask permission for the next level of intimacy.
You, probably, know about elder version – when no means no. Unfortunately, it's built on the tradition of pushing sex, which has a weird gender dynamic.
Take your time to discuss all the details of the scene. It has tantalizing nature, so enjoy it!
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2. Who are you?
The question is almost as difficult to answer as 'Be or not to be?' There are roles within the BDSM community. Tops and bottoms, submissives and dominants or switchers (people who can be both). The thing is, do you like to perform bondage or to be tied up? Talk it through with yourself, at first. Then announce it to your partner.
Remember, the BDSM community is diverse and beautiful. 'Roles' don't always apply to gender. If you are a man who wants to be bounded – it's your desire. It doesn't do anything with a traditional masculinity perspective.
3. And now… to the point
As we said before, you don't need to own a dungeon to start the scenario, which includes bondage. Prepare those things that you and your partner decided to include in sex. It can be a rope, handcuffs, a tie, or a belt. But remember that the material shouldn't bunch up, so it can't cut off circulation. Also, don't tie a knot that is difficult to undo. And if you are interested in shibari read 'The Seductive Art of Japanese Bondage' written by Midori.
4. Aftercare
Take time to discuss what had happened during the play. Both of you have just got a new experience, and you shouldn't leave it just like that. Talk about what you felt, provide comfort. Maybe you are dying to tell to significant other what did you learn about her/his body language.
Well, here you are. Now you are a beginner with knowledge. The next step is to do things written above. Don't leave it for two weeks after never. It's only your responsibility to embody your fantasies.
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