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Love Languages Made Kinky

July 01, 2025

Love Languages Made Kinky

Kinky love languages aren’t always obvious. Your partner may worship at your feet, while quietly aching for you to say “thank you.” They may kneel for hours, but what they need is five minutes of your full attention.

So don’t just play with their body. Learn to speak to their heart, too. Here’s how to recognize your partner’s kinky love language and how to speak it like a pro.

Physical Touch

Your partner doesn’t just want to be touched. They want to feel.

Spanking, scratching, restraints, pressure — for them, love lives in sensation. It’s not just sex. It’s the build-up. The pain. The aftercare cuddles.

How to love them:

  • Explore what sensations they actually enjoy: stingy, thuddy, soft, or sharp
  • Be fully present during touch — they notice when you go on autopilot
  • Don’t skip aftercare — their body needs your hands even after the play ends

Acts Of Service

Your partner expresses love through action.

They kneel to lace your boots. They prep the toy bag just how you like it. They bring you water and a blanket without being asked. For them, service isn’t just a task — it’s intimacy.

When this is their love language, the way you receive their service matters just as much as how they give it.

Here’s how to love them:

  • Thank them out loud, with specificity (“I loved how you took care of that for me, it made me feel powerful”)
  • Assign service that feels personal, like preparing your outfit or laying out your favorite toys
  • Treat tasks as rituals: let them undress you, warm up the space, or kneel before scenes
  • Avoid brushing off their efforts (“you don’t have to do that”), instead, let it be meaningful
  • Show gratitude in the dynamic: a kiss on the forehead, a whispered “good sub,” or a surprise reward

Words Of Affirmation

Some lovers want your hands. This one wants your words.

Your praise. Your dirty talk. Your “good boy,” “yes, ma’am,” or “you’re mine.” This love language thrives on verbal intimacy: during play, after scenes, or over breakfast.

Here’s how to love them:

  • Use affirming titles (“My good girl,” “My obedient slut”)
  • Send voice notes with praise or instructions
  • Say how much you enjoy what they’re doing — not just that they’re doing it “right”

Receiving Gifts

For your partner, a thoughtful gift is a form of deep connection.

It’s not about money — it’s about meaning. They feel loved when you show that you remembered their kink, their needs, and their aesthetic.

Here’s how to love them:

  • Surprise them with personalised gear, toys, or symbols of ownership
  • Present a gift during a scene to enhance emotional impact
  • Offer small, symbolic tokens that reinforce your dynamic: a charm, a tag, a mark

Quality Time

This partner craves intentional time with you, not just quick scenes.

They feel most connected when you’re mentally and emotionally present. Negotiating together. Deep-diving into fantasies. Cuddling after play.

Here’s how to love them:

  • Create slow, immersive scenes that feel like shared journeys
  • Give undivided attention before and after play, phones down, eyes locked
  • Build rituals around togetherness: shared baths, decompressing, talking in dynamic