Kinky play can open doors to incredible intimacy and pleasure, but it can also open the door to shame, even when everything was consensual, safe, and desired.

Shame after kink is extremely common. It doesn’t mean you did something wrong. It means your nervous system, your upbringing, or your beliefs are trying to catch up with your sexual reality.

This guide breaks down why shame happens and what you can do to work through it in a grounded, practical, emotionally intelligent way.

Eva Oh is one of the defining voices in contemporary BDSM: a dominatrix, educator, and filmmaker whose work reframes power with precision and humanity.

In this Anoeses Persona episode, she speaks about the beginning of her career, how her technique evolved, what the job taught her and much more.

You’re turned on, the vibe is right, and then… nothing happens. Or it starts, then disappears. Many men panic in that moment, thinking something’s wrong with them. But the truth is: it’s more common than most people admit. Erection issues often have little to do with physical ability and much more to do with pressure, stress, or expectations.

Dominance isn’t about taking power. It’s about creating safety inside structure. Control-freak behavior, on the other hand, hides behind the same language, but it’s driven by fear, ego, or insecurity. Here’s how you can tell the difference in everyday actions and words.

Forget pumpkin spice — this Halloween is all about power, temptation, and play. Whether you’re into slow-burn seduction, spellbound surrender, or cheeky games of control, these scenarios will turn your night into something far more delicious than candy.