Interview with a couple of kinky creators Sunny & Skye

HOW THEY GOT INTO ADULT CONTENT CREATION

SKYE: Both of us were kinky in our own individual ways, but we didn't have space in our previous relationships to really explore that. And when Sunny and I got together as a couple, one of the first things we did was starting to build the curiosity pillar of our relationship. From the very beginning, we would ask: What kind of porn are you interested in? What toys do you have? What are your fantasies? And from there, we created this really curious and vulnerable framework to start to explore kink together. The second time that we ever shared intimate space with each other, I asked Sonny if he was ever interested in anal, thinking I was asking for myself, and that's when we started the conversation around pegging, because he was like, “Yeah, that sounds really cool”. So really early on, we've created a foundation of curiosity without shame.

SUNNY: And at some point the topic of filming came up — like, have you ever filmed yourself? Neither of us had, mostly because we’d never been in a safe, open environment where that felt possible. But this felt different, so we decided to try it.

That happened pretty early on — probably within the first month of us sleeping together. We filmed it, watched it back, and were like, this is kind of amazing. Then the idea came up: what if we shared it? That felt exciting. Let’s lean into that exhibitionist curiosity a bit, that fantasy. So we did — and it just kind of snowballed from there.

We were like, okay, let’s put this on OnlyFans, maybe make some extra travel money. We both had full-time jobs at the time, and we never planned for this to become what it is now. But it slowly kept building, and suddenly here we are.

It was also right after COVID. I was still working in a hospital, still in COVID protocols, but the world was starting to open up again. And honestly, it was really scary at first — sharing something so intimate online when neither of us had ever done anything like that. I didn’t even have TikTok. We had to learn everything from scratch.

SKYE: But one of the biggest reasons I wanted to keep going, despite how scary it felt, was the response. So many people — men, women, couples, non-binary people — were reaching out, looking for connection, for validation, for something real. After COVID, there was this huge sense of disconnection, and people were craving intimacy in any form. And that’s really where my educator side started to come out. I didn’t grow up with any type of sexual education. I was shamed very early on for my curiosities. And when I started to grow into myself and started to explore myself with my partners, masturbation was something I couldn’t even explore with my ex-fiancé. It was considered cheating.

SEPARATING SHARED AND PRIVATE INTIMACY

SKYE: It’s not that the pleasure on camera isn’t real or enjoyable, but having a camera in the room does change things — it’s almost impossible to ignore, even after three years. The fact that we’re being recorded, that it’s “for work,” inevitably shifts the headspace a bit. I personally have a really hard time dropping fully into subspace on camera. So we’ve decided that my subspace isn’t something we want to share with anyone else. It’s something for Sunny and me, truly just for us.

The camera changes the dynamic. Off camera, we have really deep, primal sex that we don’t always show. We want to share glimpses of that on camera, but it also opens a certain point of view for the audience — seeing rough, primal sex unexpectedly. We’ve learned to be careful about who we bring into our space through what we record. We also have needs to be protected and feel safe, and that has guided how we share content.

ON JEALOUSY

SKYE: Jealousy is going to happen to all of us. It's a very valid human emotion. And it's not exclusive to monogamous couples at all. And one thing that I kept asking myself with this jealousy is: what do I need, and what am I actually jealous of? Am I jealous that I'm not getting the attention from my partner? Am I insecure about the relationship that might be building with my partner? And so I've had a couple of moments, and it's truly come from an insecurity of my worth not being enough. And it's given me a really good opportunity to reflect back on this feeling and talk to Sunny about it and be like, this is what I was feeling. And this is when we discovered new boundaries and what I need for aftercare, and what it looks like to play with others if I'm not involved. Jealousy has given us a really good opportunity to grow and to recognize what it truly is for me. And he's been such an incredible partner that if there are moments of jealousy, he will sit there, and there's no shame, there's no, he doesn't get defensive. It's just truly an open space of like, thank you for sharing this. 

SUNNY: I've felt very small moments of jealousy, but when it comes to Sky's ability to experience pleasure, I do have an insane amount of compersion when it comes to my partners. Like, I want to see her get everything that she can possibly get. Sexually, emotionally, intimately, whatever that looks like. So I've experienced small moments of jealousy, but they are almost always immediately overcome by seeing her fulfilled in the way that she wants to be. 

KINK AND ACCEPTANCE

A lot of us who are kinky don't necessarily want to be normalized. Because kink is a sexual fantasy or desire that is against the social norm. We just want it to be OK to talk about it and to be able to enjoy it in a safe way without shame.

One of my favorite kinks a fan has shared is magical object transformation. This person wanted to be my burrito. So I would make him into a burrito, and then I would "eat" this person. And this person would "go down" my GI tract into my stomach. I would "digest" him, he would become "nutrients" for my body, and then ultimately a "waste product" as well. And so it's really just interesting to hear these stories and how people have discovered this more than anything.

ON MASCULINITY

SUNNY: To me, vulnerability is incredibly masculine, and I think that is the opposite of what a lot of people think a traditional man's role is. Being vulnerable in wanting to explore things that are scary, being vulnerable and wanting to question your sexuality in general.

ADVICE ON COMMUNICATION AND RELATIONSHIPS

SUNNY: Don't kid yourself, thinking that what you've done in the past is going to work forever. I think that's one place a lot of people misstep. You know, they get together, they have a certain type of sex, it's really exciting, it's something new they've never done, and they think it's going to be that way forever. And as humans, we're just not the same way forever. We grow, we evolve, our preferences change.

You're never gonna stop having to talk about scary, hard, difficult things, but that's the only way that you're going to stay on the same page.

SKYE: Stay curious and create a safe space for vulnerability. Even if your partner brings up something you’re not into, you don’t have to shame them for it. Removing shame from the conversation can be incredibly empowering for a relationship. And don’t forget to take care of yourself — you can’t show up for your partner if you’re not showing up for yourself, because they can’t (and shouldn’t) be everything for you.