Cuckolding is a consensual kink where one partner (often called the cuckold) becomes aroused by their partner (often called the hotwife) having sexual contact with another person (the bull).

It is built on consent, communication, and shared fantasy, not secrecy or betrayal.

This dynamic can include watching, hearing about the encounter afterwards, participating in limited ways, or simply knowing it happened. Each couple defines what participation looks like based on their comfort levels and desires.

Dissociating during sex is more common than people talk about. It’s not a lack of desire, attraction, or effort; it’s a nervous system response. Understanding what’s happening is the first step toward staying connected to your body and your pleasure.

Kinky play can open doors to incredible intimacy and pleasure, but it can also open the door to shame, even when everything was consensual, safe, and desired.

Shame after kink is extremely common. It doesn’t mean you did something wrong. It means your nervous system, your upbringing, or your beliefs are trying to catch up with your sexual reality.

This guide breaks down why shame happens and what you can do to work through it in a grounded, practical, emotionally intelligent way.

Eva Oh is one of the defining voices in contemporary BDSM: a dominatrix, educator, and filmmaker whose work reframes power with precision and humanity.

In this Anoeses Persona episode, she speaks about the beginning of her career, how her technique evolved, what the job taught her and much more.

You’re turned on, the vibe is right, and then… nothing happens. Or it starts, then disappears. Many men panic in that moment, thinking something’s wrong with them. But the truth is: it’s more common than most people admit. Erection issues often have little to do with physical ability and much more to do with pressure, stress, or expectations.