BDSM games can help keep your sex life as exciting as possible. It is important to stay open-minded and consider your own limits and those of your partner.

Let’s be honest, sex is fun. It makes our bodies release happiness hormones, helps blow off steam, and is important for a healthy relationship. Nevertheless, sexual pleasure must be kept awake so people don’t get bored in long-term relationships.

What you do to enrich your sex life is, of course, up to you. But it doesn’t hurt to explore your sexuality and find new things to try with your partner. Below, you will find a list of fun BDSM ideas which you can use to spice up your sex life and which can help you have a lot of fun together with your partner.

1. Remote Controlled Toys

Imagine that your partner retains control of a remote control-powered vibrating egg or anal plug and can make you aroused whenever he or she wants. This will definitely bring pleasure, help both of you feel intimate with each other, and add some excitement to otherwise mundane activities.  

For instance, imagine that both of you are out shopping, riding a train, or hanging out in any other public place. There are people everywhere around you. And there’s a vibrating toy hidden in the submissive partner’s underwear. Unbeknown to others, the dominant partner can now send pleasure waves to the submissive partner with the remote sex toy at any time. All of the control is entirely in their hands.

But there’s another catch to this hot foreplay. If the submissive partner becomes impetuous and shows that they enjoy this game, it will be over immediately and there will be no further satisfaction for that day. Only the dominant partner can decide when the sub gets an orgasm.

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1. Heat and Cold

Using hot or cold objects during sex is not only fun, but it can also significantly increase the level arousal. Ice cubes and massage wax are the best things to try in this type of BDSM game. If you blindfold your partner before trying to tease them with cold or hot substances, they will find these touches especially tantalizing. Ice dildos and ice cream are also very popular in these types of BDSM games. 

For instance, you can try to gently tie your partner's hands together so they can’t move them and then run ice cubes all over their body. You can work your way closer and closer to your partner’s main pleasure zones, including the neck, nipples, or spine. Move very slowly so that they have to suffer a little. 

The game can be played just as well with a sex toy made of stainless steel, ceramic, or glass. The advantage of these toys is that they can be both heated and cooled down. You can use these toys as dildos or simply run them over the sensitive parts of the body of your partner.

1. Role Play

In this type of game, both partners agree on a story and assigned roles. Often, the games are about dominance and submission. Since this type of play can be unpredictable, a time frame and of course a "safe word" are set beforehand. A safe word is a code word one or several partners can use to stop the game immediately. 

One popular role-playing game is the maid's game. The submissive partner wears a maid costume and has to follow the master’s instructions and carry out various tasks ranging from household chores to erotic favors.

Role-playing games that include a dominatrix and slave, student and teacher, or kidnapper and victim are also popular. But of course, you can also just invent your very own "script" and act it out scene by scene.

You can use a variety of accessories for dominance games. For example, try using handcuffs, Anoeses leather restraints, gags, or shackles for bondage games.

1. Count Down

If you decide to punish your sub for something they did or said, you can let them count the number of blows you’ve administered. The number of slaps should be determined in advance. For example, let's say you’re planning to slap your partner 20 or 30 times. The submissive now knows exactly what to expect and has to count down the number of blows. If they suddenly stop counting or enjoy the spanking too much, you have to start over until they learn the lesson.

However, it is important to determine your sub’s limits during a preliminary discussion. There is no other way to determine what your partner’s boundaries are. And remember the safe word! When it's over, it's over.

1. Reading the Cards

To make your BDSM games different every time you play, you can create punishment cards and put all of them in a box. If the submissive partner acts naughty or breaks a rule, he or she may draw a card to let chance determine their punishment. 

FAQ

Are safe words important?

A safe word is particularly important in role playing games that tend to push the players’ boundaries. Some people might consider safe words unnecessary, however, it is the best way to ensure that yours or your partner’s boundaries won't be overstepped.

How do I spark up my relationship in bed?

BDSM adult games are the best way to experience a lot of pleasure in a relationship, add a fresh spark to it, and create memories you and your partner won’t forget! For instance, you can try using remote-controlled toys, role playing, or temperature play.

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