Owning Your Pleasure Journey: Key Insights From Instagram Live with Tash Mia

TASH MIA'S JOURNEY

Tash Mia's path into the world of professional dominance began with an unexpected invitation from a close friend to "double domme" a sub partner. This experience ignited a new persona within her, Mistress Tash Mia, marking the beginning of her journey as a professional dominatrix.

BEYOND THE SERIOUS FACADE OF BDSM

BDSM is frequently perceived as an intensely serious and solemn practice that can scare beginners and limit experiences. Countering this, Tash Mia emphasizes that playfulness and laughter should be present within BDSM scenes: “It's an adult play and we don't even realize how important it is to play without an end goal, I'm not talking about sports where someone's gonna win, but playing with no end goal is extremely important for adults to do and we don't participate in it enough”. 

EMPOWERMENT THROUGH KINK

Kink can be a tool for self-empowerment, especially for women: “I think it really provides a safe space for women to not only claim power over how they want to experience their body and their sexuality. But it also allows them to explore their desires, explore their pleasure. And there's not a lot of situations where women can really do that”.

POWER EXCHANGE

The common view often paints the dominant partner as the sole holder of power in BDSM dynamics. However, Tash Mia offers a nuanced perspective, describing power as a dynamic exchange: “I would never say that one person is completely empowered and the other is stripped of it. I see it as a dance where the power floats between the submissive and the dominant. Because the dominant is empowering the submissive to enter a space that is extremely vulnerable. So they're giving that power by providing this very safe space that they're creating to lead them through, but at the same time, the submissive is empowering the dominant to actually do that. That's how I look at it: they empower each other and that power flows back and forth”.

VULNERABILITY AS STRENGTH

Vulnerability is often perceived as weakness, but it actually requires a lot of bravery to be vulnerable and to connect to your real emotions and feelings: “Vulnerability is seen as shameful quality, a has been suppressed in a lot of peopel. So to be able to kind of dig down and open yourself up, to be able to be vulnerable in front of someone else, does take a lot of power,” – says Tash Mia. 

ADVICE FOR EXPLORATION

For anyone curious about exploring kink, Tash Mia advises starting with self-pleasure practices and focusing on understanding your desires: “​​Can be as simple as doing a beautiful meditation. Doing some breath work and just exploring your own body in a very non-judgmental way, almost like you've never touched it before. It's, it's incredible what that would do for you”.

For women specifically, she urges challenging traditional ideas about gender roles in sexual dynamics: “What I would love to see, is women really challenging the idea that women can only take a submissive position and that to be dominant, you have to step into your masculinity. I think that that is a big misconception. It's one I certainly had when I started domming, I thought I dive into my masculine side to dom, but now I do it completely from my feminine side. So I would love to see women trying to step into their more dominant side, because if they start looking at the qualities of the dominant– leadership, facilitation, caring, nurturing – these are all very feminine qualities. And we don't see it. So I would love to see women trying to be a little bit more dominant in their sex lives, in their personal lives, in whatever part they want to, because it's really just about ownership of yourself, your body and the experience you want to have”.

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