Who said that a man always wants to be dominant and a woman always wants to be submissive? You can do whatever you want: dominate your man, submit to him, or enjoy power exchange in same-sex relationships.

The sight of a woman in a PVC costume with a flogger in her hand standing over her bound helpless partner can be extremely appealing to some people. It’s no wonder that femdom is becoming more and more popular nowadays. And the dominatrix industry is booming!

Are you a female who loves retaining control in the bedroom? Then you will probably love the femdom ideas we have on our list!

You’ll especially enjoy our femdom ideas if you want to give your man back-arching, toe-curling, screaming orgasms. Even if you’re new to BDSM but already feel a strong pull toward the idea of dominating your partner, you should definitely give these femdom techniques a try. We will offer you multiple options at different levels of intensity so you can decide how dominant you actually want to be. However, don't worry if it turns out that you don't like dominating - this is also normal!

Be careful, some practices on the list might hurt your partner temporarily but they won't be harmful in the long run. Having an honest conversation with your partner before trying femdom play will help you to get the best experience. And don’t forget to agree on a safe word.

And now it's time to dive into the femdom world!

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Femdom Scene Ideas

Teasing

There is no doubt that teasing is a must in every femdom scene. It doesn't matter if your lover is bound or if you forbid him from touching you, talking to you or getting hard, you gotta tease him! This will bring him so much joy. 

For instance, you can try touching his sensitive areas with your hand or a feather tickler ever so slightly. Masturbating in front of him is another way to tease him. This will give him a delicious yet painful glee.

Foot worship

Having your partner kiss or lick your shoes is one of the things virtually every Dom dreams about. And it gets even hotter if you wear a pair of sexy thigh-high boots that the sub has to take them off with his mouth. Try prodding, kicking, or stepping on him to spice up the process.

Impact play

Impact play is one of the most common practices in BDSM. Regardless of what you use (your hand, a cane, a long-tailed flogger, or a furry paddle) a good old-fashioned spanking always brings a ton of pleasure to the sub and the Dom.

Bondage

Bondage is something you must try in BDSM. There are dozens of ways to tie up your partner: you can use regular cuffs for wrists or ankles, a hogtie system that restrains all the limbs, under-the-bed restraints, gags, blindfolds, ankle spreaders, nipple clamps, and many more accessories and devices. 

Orgasm control

Orgasm control is a sexual practice in which one of the partners’ orgasm is either delayed for a long time or reduced to a very brief window of satisfaction. This delay typically results in a more intense orgasm.

Most of the time orgasm control only works if the controlled partner is either very disciplined or if he is tied up in a way that he can no longer satisfy himself. 

You can also control your partner's orgasm with the help of a cock cage, chastity belt, or shackles.

Humiliation

The field of humiliation in the context of BDSM is huge. Many subs find it pleasurable and exciting to be humiliated by their mistress.

One of the most popular practices here is the tried-and-true penis humiliation. Even if your partner’s penis is quite large, it will probably be very embarrassing and unpleasant for him to hear that it’s small. 

You can also try physical humiliation. For instance, make your man wear a leash or other accessories in public. 

Humiliation in private can also be fun. You can make your man swallow his own sperm after an orgasm and record a video of the process which you can then use as a threat in case your sub misbehaves.

Cock and Ball Torture

This practice is usually referred to as CBT. Your task is to “abuse” his penis in any possible way: pinch it, stretch it, pierce or step on it. Do anything that can cause pain.

Of course, you should respect the limits of your partners, however, arousal changes the way we perceive pain. The more aroused a person gets, the more receptive to pain they become. 

This femdom idea is typically used by more experienced BDSM players since it carries a bigger risk. 

Anal play and plugging

Many men consider anal play to be embarrassing since it contradicts their perception of masculinity.  This is what makes it such a perfect idea for a dominatrix to try. Consider using butt plugs and anal beads or even try to penetrate your sub with an anal dildo. You can also make him wear a plug during the day so that he gets ready for anal penetration in the evening.

Cyber Femdom 

Don’t forget that femdom ideas are also suitable for long-distance relationships. It might feel strange at first to give commands or to humiliate your partner over a phone or in an online chat, however, once you get used to it, you will get pleasure every time you do it.

You can also use video chats to see how your partner obeys your orders. For instance, you can make him penetrate himself with a dildo or suck on it.

Make a mess

From spitting to golden showers - the opportunities to remind your man who is in charge are pretty much endless.