Home bondage ideas you can try tonight

 

If you are new to BDSM, you may associate it with scenes that use a lot of equipment, suspension bondage, and tools and take place in a dark room or dungeon. If you want to dive into BDSM, you may be wondering whether you need any of these tools and if you should create the same atmosphere for each scene. But this is not necessary, as BDSM is more about your fantasy and things that you can do with simple tools without leaving your bedroom. In this article, you can learn more about practicing BDSM at home and get some creative BDSM ideas. 

What is DIY BDSM? 

BDSM DIY (do-it-yourself) is a BDSM practice accessible to everyone. You can create a BDSM experience using simple handmade tools and some creativity. It is possible to get as kinky as you want using various toys, rules, and BDSM scenarios. 

BDSM play ideas 

There are many BDSM kinks and ideas you can try without much preparation if you and your partner are interested in them. Let’s take a look at some BDSM activities you can engage in at home without needing to shop for special equipment and tools beforehand. 

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Restraining and tying up your partner

Tying up the submissive is the perfect way to create a simple BDSM scene. Restraint is present in almost all BDSM activities and it’s the first step many couples take when they choose to dive into the world of BDSM. Restraining leaves the sub unable to move and makes them feel like they aren’t in control. If you don’t have any store-bought restraints on hand, you can tie your partner with a rope that can be made from any thick piece of fabric or clothes. 

Alternatively, you can create a full bed restraint that can be made from simple things such as two large rolled sheets. Simply tie your sub’s ankles and wrists to the bed using the sheets and you will restrain their moves without much effort and special equipment. 

Finally, you can restrict hand movements by tying the sub’s hands. The same materials will come in handy when creating soft bondage cuffs. 

Teasing and orgasm control

One BDSM practice you can try after tying up your sub is taking control of their orgasms. You may use a vibrator to tease your partner and play with different sensitive spots on their body avoiding their genitals. Then you can have your sub beg you to touch their erogenous zone and finally agree to make them come or vice versa - stop touching them if they moan or show other signs of pleasure. 

Another way to tease a sub is to tell them to come within 30 seconds and threaten that you will stop stimulation and play completely if they fail to accomplish the task. Prohibiting the sub from orgasming can be enjoyable for some D/s couples and can lead to more intense orgasms later on. This practice can also be used to assert the dominant’s power over the submissive. Another orgasm control practice lies in forcing the submissive to have multiple orgasms using a vibrator or during sex. 

Spanking and paddling 

This is a common kink in BDSM, and spanking and paddling can be done with household objects such as a hairbrush. You can use spanking to discipline the submissive partner and make spanking and paddling a method of punishment for making mistakes or breaking rules. 

Kneeling and taking specific positions

This fun BDSM idea involves asking the submissive partner to kneel or take certain positions in different situations as defined in the rules the sub has agreed to follow. Get creative here and make sure this is enjoyable for both partners. 

Temperature play 

There are lots of ways to engage in temperature play. For example, you can put your glass sex toy or vibrator under cold water and touch your partner to ensure stronger sensations. Temperature play provides a space for experimentation with various tools.  

Giving orders 

Ordering your partner to perform certain actions is an important part of BDSM play that doesn’t require anything except your fantasy. If you master the art of giving (or following) orders, this will become the best part of all your BDSM scenes. Some ideas for BDSM orders include: 

• Asking your sub to orgasm or not to orgasm
• Asking the sub to stay quiet and stopping stimulating them if they don’t
• Telling them that if they stop begging, you will stop stimulation 
• Asking them to surrender to you 
• Telling them to beg you to get some pleasure 
• Ordering the sub to perform oral sex or some service 
• Telling them to kneel or bend over 

Bedroom bondage ideas 

Using bondage is also a great way to get into the right mood. In addition to tools that can be used to tie up the sub, a harness or collar can also be useful, as they are both aesthetic and functional. 

You can use a piece of jewelry or a leather strip as a collar. Alternatively, take some soft or rough pieces of fabric to create a harness or tie the ropes around the submissive’s body. If you want to deprive your partner of their sense of sight, use a silk scarf to blindfold them. Your bondage scenario can involve tying up and blindfolding the submissive so they feel like they don’t have any control over the situation and can only experience the sensations you give them. 

There are various sexy bondage ideas you can come up with together with your partner. Just allow yourself to be curious about exploring the world of BDSM and experiment to find what works for you.

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