June 17, 2020

Soft BDSM

Let's say you are on a date with your lover. Suddenly, the attempting thought comes to your head: I want to tease the hell out of her/him. Well, you already know each other, you have trust and learned sexual preferences. So, you are taking the well-known path, but somehow you both don't meet the desire - to tease the hell out. Everything is fine, but… Uh, you are a little bored.

In that case, we want to attempt you with a soft BDSM recipe.

Warning: you might love it.

Prepare the ingredients.

In this recipe, the main characters are your partner and you. And other sexual activities are going to be spices. So, firstly you need to be prepared. Decide who is going to be dominant and who is submissive. If you are in a relationship for a long time, this task is going to be pretty easy to complete. Since you already know the dynamic between you two. If not? Investigate!

Now, put aside a frying pan or a soup pot and take a piece of paper and a pen. Both of you should write 3 lists: what do you wish, what scares you, but it can be fascinating to try, what is absolutely off the table? Also, add names you can call each other and stop word.

After, it's time to negotiate. Remember the golden rule: you are running into this experience to make what both of you want. So, it's not the moment to feed only your ego.

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What spices for soft BDSM you can use?

By now, you have these lists – they are your significant spices. But look through other options. As chefs of BDSM cuisine, we have prepared some activities for your scene. Just stay open-minded and empathic.

1. Sexual service.

Dom instructs sub how exactly he/she wants. Sub should do it the way it was told.

2. Age play.

You can pretend to be younger or older during the scene.

3. Sensory Deprivation Play.

It's the blocking of a submissive sense of sight to increase the sensory perception of a body. You can use leather blindfolds if you have a fetish on this material. Or use something you have at home: scarves, handkerchiefs, etc.

4. Impact play.

You can spank tooshie or other firm parts of a body with a hand, whip, paddle, or belt. But avoid the stomach and back.

5. Bondage.

It's a restriction of body movements by using ropes, handcuffs, restringing sets, and chains.

6. Genital worshiping.

In general, the "worship" is a part of erotic play. You can lick, shave, or clean a person's juicy parts.

7. Forced masturbation.

Dom makes a sub to masturbate in front of him/her. It can be a part of erotic play or humiliation.

8. Face slapping.

Remember to keep it moderate. Often uses in humiliation and control scenarios.

9. Waxing.

Usage of wax as a form of erotic sensation. You can arouse partner drop by drop. Newbies, don't use beeswax. It becomes too hot during the burning.

10. Anal bead.

You can use a set of strung beads to stimulate anal nerves as foreplay.

That's it. We hope you will enjoy all cooking and eating process. And lastly, there is a lifetime rule for everyone who is in a relationship. Communication, trust, and love are the basement for happy couples. The same works with BDSM. Only you two know what will work the best.

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