Starting your journey as a submissive can feel exciting, overwhelming, and sometimes a little intimidating. With so much information out there and the desire to “do it right” it’s easy to fall into traps that can actually harm your experience. Here are some of the most common mistakes new subs make, and why it’s important to avoid them.

Meet Vex Ashley, the visionary founder of Four Chambers, a niche porn studio revolutionizing adult entertainment. Their films focus on immersive experiences and emotional depth rather than just explicit visuals. Read our conversation with Vex on porn, sexuality, and what makes Four Chambers unlike anything else.

What if wearing a dress or lipstick could unlock something deeper than just a look? Feminisation kink isn’t simply about clothes; it’s a complex mix of power, identity, taboo, and erotic thrill. Here’s what’s really going on beneath the lace and satin.

For submissives, especially those who are deeply emotionally invested, constantly giving, or navigating complex dynamics, the emotional and mental load can build up over time, leading to burnout. And if you’re feeling disconnected, exhausted, or even resentful in a dynamic you once loved, you’re not alone.

Let’s discuss what submissive burnout looks like, why it happens, and how to manage it with care.

In BDSM, power exchange isn’t about taking control, it’s about being trusted with it. A skilled Dominant doesn’t just lead scenes; they create spaces where the submissive can surrender with confidence, safety, and emotional freedom. And that requires something deeper than just setting rules or agreeing on a safeword. It requires trust, the kind that’s felt in the body, not just agreed upon in words.

Let’s explore how Dom(me)s can build and maintain this kind of trust — with real-life inspired examples that show the difference between performative dominance and real emotional leadership