Effective Ways to Discipline a Sub

Most relationships between dominant and submissive people involve penalties. The "D" in BDSM stands for discipline, and occasionally subs need to be corrected when they disobey the rules. Many Doms, however, lack ideas of how to punish. And sometimes, a sub may also feel ignored if the discipline lesson isn't done properly.

If you want your punishment to be effective, think about the following. 

Look Like a Mistress

To truly embody the role of a Mistress, your appearance should command respect and admiration. The key lies in the details and the confidence your attire brings. Here are some tips to help you look the part and make the most of the products available at Anoeses:

1. Embrace Leather and Latex: These materials exude power and dominance. Consider items like the Latex Corset or the Leather Harness to make a bold statement. Their form-fitting nature enhances your silhouette, ensuring you look both intimidating and alluring.

2. Accessorize with Purpose: Accessories can transform an outfit. Opt for a Collar and Leash set, Leather Gloves, or a Choker to add an edge to your ensemble. These pieces are not just decorative but signify control and authority.

3. Statement Footwear: High-heeled boots or stilettos elongate your legs and add a fierce touch to your look.

4. Commanding Attire: Dresses and bodysuits in darker tones like black or deep red are classic choices. Explore the range of Latex Dresses or Latex Bodysuits to find pieces that make you feel in control.

5. Confidence is Key: No outfit is complete without the right attitude. Walk with confidence, maintain strong eye contact, and use your body language to assert your dominance.

By choosing the right pieces from Anoeses, you can create a look that is both powerful and seductive, ensuring you command the room and respect of your sub.

Explain the reason

Any punishment's primary purpose is to teach the sub a lesson in order to deter inappropriate behavior and make sure that the partner understands their duty completely. And it's very important that a sub is always aware of the context of their punishment. So before the discipline lesson try to say:

• You are being punished because…
• Why are you being punished?

By emphasizing the behavior that requires modification, the attention remains on that particular conduct. This approach ensures that the submissive does not develop the impression that the Dominant disapproves of them personally.

Dear Doms, don't improvise or make up reasons for punishment on the go.

The punishment must correspond to the 'crime'

The degree of severity of the wrongdoing should dictate the level of harshness. Here're some examples:

1. If your sub doesn't respond to you for over 15 minutes, intense spanking will be too much. Instead, say your sub to remove panties for the entire day;
2. If your Little didn't clean their room or have been spending too much time on the phone, you can ask them to finish the cleaning and give an extra chore or forbid them to use social media for the rest of the week. Like the parents would do;
3. Major offense requires a major punishment. For instance, 10 minutes of caning.

Don't be too soft

Novice BDSM Dominants may hold themselves back, concerned that they might be crossing boundaries, particularly when a submissive begins to cry. However, this is where reliance on safewords becomes crucial. If the sub experiences excessive physical, emotional, or mental distress, they reserve the right to utilize their safeword.

As an idea, ask your sub to count every spank. This way, by the sound of their voice, you will know whether you're going too hard or too soft. Also, you can ask them to tell: 'I'm yours little (the title you use)'.

Timing is crucial

In general, a submissive is aware of their mistakes and apprehensive about the consequences of displeasing their Dominant. If the Dominant forgets to punish or delays it, the effectiveness of the discipline may be diminished. As a general rule, disciplinary actions should be carried out by the end of the day. If disciplinary measures are postponed beyond a day, they may fail to serve their intended purpose of educating the submissive and preventing them from repeating the mistake. Additionally, submissives require evidence that their Dominants value the relationship enough to devote time to discipline them. Spanking, orgasm denial, or even a stern text message lecture can have a significant impact.

In the end, we would like to give you a list of ideas for punishments:

• Spanking;
• Whipping;
• Biting;
• Whipping;
• Orgasm denial or edging;
• Forced silence;
• Walk your sub like a puppy;
• Chain the naughty sub up;
• Forced orgasm;
• Make them eat on the floor;
• Wax-play;
• Dictate their ability to masturbate;
• Take away something they like;
• Collar them.