A Complete Guide To Bondage Restraints

 

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BDSM is becoming extremely popular nowadays! More and more couples, even those in vanilla relationships, are interested in erotic bondage games. Bondage goes beyond being tied up with a classic pair of handcuffs. The fantasy of surrendering your body and mind to your partner and trying out new sex positions, tricks, and exciting sex acts is something that many people find extremely enticing.

But where do you start when you want to venture into the new realm of bondage sex? Which sex toys and accessories are necessary for the best experience? This article will provide you with all the necessary information you might need to consider before buying BDSM restraints. 

Erotic restraints have long been an integral part of the BDSM scene. They are able to spice up virtually anyone’s sex life, be it a couple married for 20 years or young partners that met 2 months ago. Being at the complete mercy of your partner and no longer having control over the way you play in the bedroom is a very special experience. And how far a person goes in BDSM bondage sex depends entirely on their experience and preferences. While some just enjoy relinquishing control and trying out new types of stimulation, others are interested in experimenting with new and sometimes extreme sex positions with the help of ropes, chains, and leather restraints.

The Dos and Don'ts of Bondage

If you want a bondage game to be an unforgettable experience for everyone, make sure you follow some simple rules. 

Before starting a BDSM session, discuss all the details with your partner. Trust is the key to pleasure and fun in BDSM. Also, agree on a safe word or an obvious sign which will stop your play immediately after you or your partner say the word or show the sign. Remember to talk to your partner during sex, especially if you see they look like they are in pain or uncomfortable. Plus, having a pair of scissors nearby is a must for all bondage sessions. If you run into troubles, they will ensure a quick escape from tape or rope.

Never, under any circumstances, tie anything around your neck if you don't want to be accidentally suffocated when trying to have a bit of good sex. Gags can also be dangerous if used improperly. Be sure to keep the safe word or non-verbal sign in mind at all times and never leave your tied-up partner alone in a room. Remember, their genuine panic is not likely to provide additional stimulation during your lovemaking session. 

You should also avoid putting pressure on your partner’s sensitive joints, nerves, and veins. Remember to change positions regularly, since it might be hard for the sub to be restricted in the same position for long periods of time.

Different Types of Restraints for BDSM

There are countless types of BDSM restraints and sex toys for bondage on the market. To choose the best option for yourself, you should explore everything that’s out there:

Handcuffs 

Handcuffs are a classic attribute of bondage games. They are easy to use, sexy, and versatille. Handcuffs are also perfect for beginners. Anoeses offers different types of handcuffs, ankle cuffs, and thigh cuffs so you can choose a pair that best fits your preferences.

Advanced players also like to use handcuffs that are connected to a collar. When these handcuffs are used in a combination with a gag and an eye mask, it has a significant influence on the bound person’s perception and orientation. Couples engaged in BDSM can also use collars in combination with a leash to underline the submissive relationship between the sub and the dom in role-play.

Bondage rope

Even though a lot of people love using classic handcuffs in the bedroom, some players also like to experiment with bondage rope. A rope allows you to reach a completely different "bondage level". Thanks to the various bondage techniques, rope bondage never gets boring even for advanced players. Knowing all the rules regarding rope use and understanding what knots you can use is absolutely crucial in bondage sex.

When buying a rope, look for natural materials, which are immediately ready for use. Under no circumstances should plastic ropes be used for shackles, as these can cause painful skin abrasions due to friction.

Door restraints

Don't be apprehensive about door jam restraints - they can open up a whole new world of possibilities to you. Although door restraints might seem intimidating at the first sight, they are very easy to use, and, hence, can be suitable both for beginners and advanced BDSM players. So, whenever you feel like having some standing sex, just hook the restraints over the back of a door and tie your submissive with them.

Spreader bars

Fasten your seat belts and get ready to be at the mercy of your dominant. Spreader bars attach to the ankles and they are fully adjustable. When tied to a spreader bar, a sub becomes completely helpless but ready to experience as much pleasure as their Dom allows. There is a whole range of positions you can try using spreader bars, so get started!

Under-bed restraints

If you don't have four posts at the corners of your bed to attach restraints, don’t be sad, it doesn't mean you have to miss out on some kinky fun. Under-bed restraints are the perfect alternative, as they are equipped with long cords. These cords will slip under your mattress, and their weight will keep them tightly fixed, so you can go ahead and have fun. 

Bondage Tie Downs: What You Shouldn't Use

Are you curious about bondage, but don't have the right restraints at home? Slow down before looking for alternatives in your house. Some things should never be used as a substitute for bondage restraints.

One of the examples is duct tape. Although it looks pretty safe at first sight, industrial-strength adhesive that lends the tape its sticky property can damage your skin when you rip it off. However, if you find the idea of being restrained with tape really hot, there is a solution for you - you can use special bondage tape. You can use this tape to tie your partner up quickly and easily. Bondage tape is softer and more beautiful than conventional one. Also, this tape does not stick to skin or hair! It can even be reused after more gentle sessions.

Similarly, conventional rope is too hard on the skin, it cuts quickly, and it emits heat from friction, which can lead to burns. The thicker and softer bondage rope is specifically for erotic restraint play and it holds tight without constricting. Plus, you don’t need to have a profound knowledge of knots to make this tape hold.

You should also be cautious when using restraints made from nylon, zip ties, cables, fishing lines, and metal wires. Under no circumstances should these be used on the body, as they tightly constrict the skin and are difficult to remove. They can also lead to serious injuries due to pinching.

Size is Important

When it comes to restraints, size does matter. Most of them are flexible and adjustable, so you can tighten and loosen the straps whenever you want. Also, you can tie a rope in a way that is comfortable for you. However, if your wrists are particularly small or large, not all the options will be suitable for you. Thus, handcuffs that typically have a few notches to click through may not be an option for some people. This is also true for cuffs with buckles. While most people will find that they fit just fine, others may need additional notches for a comfortable fit. 

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