If you want to diversify your relationship and don’t mind taking on a certain role in it, domestic discipline (DD) may be something to try. It is a style of relationship where a man and a woman have defined roles.
In domestic discipline relationships, men have authority over women. A man creates rules for a woman that she needs to follow and if she disobeys, he decides on punishment for her. A woman’s role often lies in taking care of the household or maintaining healthy relationships in the family. At the same time, a man provides structure for this and controls how well other family members do their roles.
Domestic discipline resembles the patriarchal system and embodies the ideal household described in the Bible. So this type of relationship will best suit straight monogamous couples who may also be Christians who believe in the teachings laid out in the Bible. That’s why this practice is sometimes called Christian Domestic Discipline (CDD).
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Is domestic discipline a part of BDSM?
It is important to distinguish between domestic discipline and BDSM. They have the discipline and punishment elements in common, but BDSM is much wider in scope than DD. BDSM is comprised of bondage and all other erotic activities and this lifestyle doesn’y have set roles for men and women, as both men and women can be in the submissive position. For instance, in BDSM, the wife can discipline the husband, but in domestic discipline, it will be the opposite all the time. Domestic discipline may not work for you if you are a woman who is not ready to completely submit to her man.
One similarity between BDSM and domestic discipline is the punishment. As in BDSM, in DD a man can decide on a relevant punishment for a woman and it should be aligned with the severity of the mistake she's made. In domestic discipline, the punishment mostly doesn’t involve bondage or impact play with toys. However, spanking is quite widespread as a form of domestic discipline punishment, especially over-the-knee domestic spanking.
Also, domestic discipline participants often sign a contract before being involved in this kind of relationship. It serves as guidance for both parties on what the rules are and which punishments will follow if these rules are broken. The husband will usually outline a wife discipline program that she has to agree to. Consent is a must for both BDSM and adult domestic discipline relationships.
Domestic discipline punishments
So what should a man do if his woman breaks domestic discipline rules? You can find the most common domestic discipline punishments below.
In domestic discipline spanking is split into spanking as punishment and maintenance spanking. A certain number of spanks can be used as punishment for bad behavior. This includes spanking with a hand, paddle, hairbrush, or any other item. As soon as the punishment is administered, the mistake is forgiven and doesn’t require any more discussion or punishment. It’s different from maintenance spanking - it is done at a predetermined time on a regular basis to reaffirm the couple’s roles and power exchange.
When you’re spanking your partner, it is necessary not to put too much force. The number of spanks is what counts and you don’t want to cause too much pain to your submissive. Another rule is that the man shouldn’t be angry before domestic spankings. If he is still furious about something that has led to punishment, he needs to calm down and only then spank his partner as a punishment.
This type of domestic discipline requires the woman to sit or kneel in a corner facing a wall for a defined period of time. Alternatively, she can just face a wall or stand in front of a wall. In some cases, a woman can also be naked during corner time or have her hands behind her back to feel more vulnerable. Sometimes, corner time is accompanied by spanking.
This punishment requires the sub to spend a defined period of time in a room without being allowed to go out. It can also be combined with other ways of domestic discipline punishment.
Sending to bed early
Instead of not being allowed to move or leave a room for some time, a man can also reduce the amount of time a woman stays awake. It is especially useful if her bad behavior is related to going to sleep late. By this type of punishment, the man can make her go to bed at a reasonable time and also show care for her health.
Another idea for domestic discipline punishment is writing lines. If a woman does something wrong, she has to write a certain phrase or sentence many times, for example, 100 or 500 times. This sentence has to be connected to her misdoing, so by writing this line she can admit her mistake. Writing it will make her more aware of the issue.
How to make a domestic discipline relationship work ?
Domestic discipline relationships can work only if both partners agree to take defined roles and believe that it will enhance their relationship. If someone is unwilling to take on a role or doesn’t feel comfortable in it (it can concern not only women but men as well), it’s probably not the best choice to be involved in a domestic discipline relationship. Remember that mutual consent, defined rules, punishment methods, and limits are what makes domestic discipline different from abuse.
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You forgot to mention disciplinary fucking.
Interesting post. One of the comments is from a woman who appears to be a dominant. Another is in the article, it says to reduce the amount of time a woman stays awake. If you ever had children, you know you can send them to bed at the same time every night, but you cannot make them fall asleep. Same for a grown woman. :-)
But the most important feature is the consent- it must be initially given and active and ongoing. A Domestic Discipline Society page indicates that consent can be withdrawn at any time by either the husband or wife, and the punishments must cease until a new agreement is made, or DD will no longer be in use if a new agreement cannot be agreed upon. That is what makes it different than abuse, that a DD relationship has initial, active and ongoing consent that can be revoked at any moment.
My mother in law paddled my husband and his brothers well past college age. It was she who encouraged me to use corporal punishment on Todd in our marriage. Todd knows I won’t back off until he is in tears sobbing and desperately wanting the pain to stop. Todd must strip bare naked, retrieve the paddle, and not object as I administer domestic discipline. My sister can’t stand my husband, sooo when he’s rude, he strips in front of her, and is paddled to tears with her witnessing it all. I have a very obedient husband after “breaking him” with paddling
This is a good general overview of domestic discipline. I have spanked my wife for many years now, and find it helps her in turning around poor behavior or attitudes quickly. Spanking is always on her bare bottom, with an instrument, and there is usually corner time and kneeling time involved too. It is important to note it’s helpful to have a time after the wife’s discipline to reconnect with her, and assure her that she is restored and loved.
My husband spanked me from the very first day of our marriage.
I was familiar with spankings, I was spanked since I was a little girl, but mostly by female persons: by my mother, by my aunt, by my babysitter, by the nuns in the catholic school I intended.
my mother decided that my discipline is on my husband now.
He spanked me three days after our marriage.
Everything was very gentle, no abusive.
He told me I will be disciplined that evening and I knew very well what does it mean.
Late this evening I stepped into the living room; he was sitting on the sofa. I was wearing only t-shirt and panties, I was bare foot.
I asked him politely Was I allowed to keep my panties on and he agreed.
I was over his lap and he spanked my thighs and my bottom with hand. It wasn’t so bad, but after spanking, my bottom was very red, warm and sore.
Several days after that, he spanked me again, but this time I was without panties.
From this time on he spanks me regularly once or twice a week.
I am mostly bare bottomed, but sometimes he spanks me over bikini, over shorts, over pajama etc.
I am pretty okay with regular spankings. I am talking about spankings, not about role play or something like that.
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