Safe sex is a new religion. It tells us that we should take care of ourselves and others we sleep with. And what is essential is that you can learn how to have safe sex. If you prepare everything right, it can free your mind, so you can be sexual and intimate the way you want to be.
What is safe sex?
It's the way to protect yourself and your partners from STDs (sexually transmitted infections), and it feels outstanding! A) Because you're staying in good health. B) Because it can improve your sex life. C) You won't fell into fear and shame. And you won't have this one question we guess almost everyone had at least once - What the hell I did last night?
How to start having safer sex?
1. Go to the doctor.
Yes, we know sometimes it's scary. But why? We all are afraid of uncertainty. What if I have something? To be honest, these thoughts won't lead you anywhere rainbowy. We see the appointment at the doctor's office as a starting point because you deserve and you should know what's happening with your body right now.
And depending on that, you can decide what kinds of protection you should have not to pass diseases if you have them. It's a responsibility we all should be aware of.
2. Protect yourself from STDs.
You can get STD's from having vaginal, anal, and oral sex or by sharing sex toys with your partner. Basically, you can get infected by exchanging any sexual fluids with other people. It can be vaginal fluids, semen, and blood. Also, some STDs you can get from skin-to-skin contact if you touch an infected body area.
To protect yourself from diseases, you can or rather should use condoms and dams. They work as barriers and help you to avoid skin-to-skin touching and contact with sexual fluids. Also, you can use latex gloves during sex. For people who have a fetish for latex, it's one more option to pursue a sexual fantasy.
And we're not here to freak you out. But you should be aware that if you don't use a condom or dam, you can infect your genitals with syphilis, chlamydia, HIV, gonorrhea, or hepatitis B. Also, during oral sex, you can get herpes and HPV (human papillomavirus). The keynote - always use condoms whether or not you have an STD.
In conclusion, we want to give you 3 more tips on what all our Anoeses team believes:
- Do not drink too much or get high. We know that it's the easiest way to relax and to start opening up in front of another person, but these things blur focus. During sex, your main aim is to get pleasure and to stay healthy at the same time.
- Be honest. If you have STD, it's your responsibility to tell about it your partner. Be cool. We all are living on the same planet, and we all can get in trouble sometimes. Remember one thing - your self-love doesn't depend on other people's opinions.
- Ask for honesty from your partner. It's totally ok to ask whether your partner has undergone a medical examination? And if so, do not hesitate to ask for a medical statement. And if he/she refuses to do so, you just can't trust this person.
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