Tips to Enjoy Strap-On Play

Pick the Right Harness and Dildo

• Harness should suit your body type (e.g., jock-style, boxer brief, or leather straps).

• Get O-ring options to switch out different dildo sizes.

• Material matters: Silicone is body-safe, easy to clean, and feels realistic.
  

Make sure the dildo size and shape feel right for your comfort and confidence level. Bigger isn’t always better—start small if you’re new to it.

Practice Before Play

Strapping one on can feel awkward at first, so take time to get familiar. Wear it solo and walk around the room; practice hip movements and thrusting; use a pillow or toy to simulate action before involving a partner.

This builds confidence and helps you figure out what feels natural.

Lube Is Essential

Even if your dildo is smooth, lube makes everything better for both the giver and receiver. Use a high-quality water-based or silicone-based lubricant depending on the dildo material. Apply it generously to the dildo, the receiving partner’s body, and your own body (especially if you’re using double penetration toys or plugs).

Check In Often

Strap-on sex is about trust, teamwork, and pleasure. Whether you’re the one wearing the harness or receiving, communication is essential:

• Ask how it feels.

• Adjust pace, depth, and position.

• Use safe words or signals if you’re exploring intense dynamics.

It’s okay to pause, laugh, adjust, and keep exploring.

Explore Power and Role Play

Strap-on play naturally invites different dynamics: dominance, submission, switching, or even mutual penetration. Play with:

• Who’s in control.

• Eye contact and dirty talk.

• Positions that allow both partners to feel empowered and sexy.

Whether you’re switching roles or leaning into your dominant/submissive sides, strap-ons can enhance your erotic creativity.

Find Your Favorite Positions

Positioning can make or break the experience. Experiment and use pillows or wedges to support bodies and improve angles. Some beginner-friendly favorites:

• Missionary: Great for intimacy and control.

• Doggy style: Powerful and deep.

• Cowgirl or reverse: The receiver stays on top and controls depth.

• Side-lying/spooning: Comfortable and intimate.
  

Play Doesn’t Have to Be Penetrative

Wearing a strap-on doesn’t mean penetration is required. Some people love grinding, using the dildo for external stimulation, and being worshipped or teased while wearing it.

Strap-on play can be sensual, dominant, silly, slow, or wild. There are no rules except mutual enthusiasm and consent.

Add Vibes, Plugs, or Double Penetration

Take things up a notch with toys that stimulate both partners at once:

• Vibrating dildos or cock rings can introduce rhythmic or pulsating stimulation, intensifying pleasure for the wearer, the receiver, or both—especially when synchronized with movement or pressure.
  

• Butt plugs, when worn during strap-on play, can heighten sensations of fullness, intensify orgasmic potential, and engage areas like the prostate or vaginal walls, depending on anatomy.
  

• Double-ended or strapless strap-ons (such as those with internal bulbs or wearable designs) allow the penetrating partner to feel internal pressure or vibration while simultaneously pleasuring their partner, creating a mutual feedback loop of arousal and physical connection.

Aftercare Is Sexy Too

Once play is over, take time to: сuddle, talk, hydrate; сlean your toys thoroughly; share what you liked and what you’d like to try next time.

Strap-on sex can be emotional, powerful, and intense. Aftercare brings you both back to center.